In the Bible, in Romans 12:2 to be exact it says Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve that God’s will is– his good pleasing and perfect will. I will come back to this scripture in a little bit.
My daughter comes home yesterday and asks me if she could get her hair dyed, and this wasn’t the first time she had asked me. so I asked her why she wanted her hair dyed and I asked what color. She told me that because her friends had got theirs done and that she wanted her done too and in the color red in the back. So I asked what colors did her friends have and she told be basically array of different colors so I said okay. Long story short we had looked up some hacks to dye her hair with Kool-Aid and it didn’t turn out as vibrant as she thought it was going to be, it was more like a cherry wine color. Of course she was a little disappointed, so I told her not to be upset and try not to grow up so quickly, but as parents we always want to make our children happy. So today I had discussion with my husband and it was a good one. He said he didn’t mind her getting her hair dyed, but he was upset at the reason why she wanted her hair dyed.
So my husband says I understand that she is in middle school but I have notice that every time when her friends gets something better or something that she doesn’t have she automatically wants it. Well to me I didn’t think it was a big deal actually I asked, “you never felt when you were younger that you need to fit in for people to like you or get the same thing as your friends to make them think that you were still cool?” He said “no, my mother never raised me that way.” He said that he was still cool without the latest fashions. Then I said “well there you go we had two different lifestyles,” and that I was made fun of, and no matter how hard I tried to fit in I still got picked on. I told him that I didn’t want her to go through what I went through as a child. I also told him that my dad raised me to be a trendsetter but it really didn’t work out for me because I wanted to be liked by people and my friends so bad. So my husbands says to me, “they have to learn not to be conformed to society,” and right when he said that, I said you are right because in the bible it says somewhere not to be conformed to this world. He goes back to say yes because it will ruin them and then they won’t know who they really are as a person because they would be to busy trying to be like their friends or the superstars on television.
It is not Gods will for us to be like the next Kim K, Beyoncé, Jay-Z, or the Weekend. God made us intricately different from each other, no person in the world is the same. But that is how society has us to think and our children our their youngest targets. Society makes them believe its okay to dress like this or act like that, or copy what this person is doing, but do our children really know why they are copying society? Is it because it is something that is cool and something that is happening now and will be gone in the next year? The Lord wants us to transform our mind so we can think differently act differently and look at thing differently. Don’t do things that are pleasing to other people in the world but do things that are pleasing to him. I feel like our children are growing up to fast and they have lost what it is like to be a child because they are so wrapped up in the “now” the “new age,” so I encourage you all to talk to your children and inspire them and let them know how beautiful and smart they are. Boost their ego up so much that no one can put them down, or so they don’t have to feel like that have to stay up to speed with their friends or the “in crowd.” Let them now being a trendsetter is better and that different is cool, so then they will realize their potential as being “a great individual, a orginal that can’t be copied.”